Having been somewhat absent from the blogworld for a little while, as I'm sure you've already noticed :) I found Ali's post yesterday rather thought provoking.
In terms of one's own blog, is not telling all, the same as not being honest? If so, then I am most definitely guilty on that score :) People blog for so many different reasons, my initial motivation was to mark the progress of my little gift company and to encourage myself to keep going, keep trying even when things are tough. Perhaps I should share a little of the history.
Livvy's father and I separated when she was three, my choice, no-one else involved but obviously my decision didn't go down too well.
I set up my Interior Design practice in order to support Livvy and I financially which initially did well but I made the classic mistake of putting all my eggs in one basket - so easy to see in hindsight. Subsequently I incurred a very large (well to me anyway) bad debt of £30,000. Being a sole trader I was not entitled to legal aid and as my debtor was wealthy, was advised by lawyers that my only real option was to accept it and chalk it up to experience as if I entered into legal proceedings against the client and then had to withdraw due to lack of funds then I would be liable for their costs and they could afford to protract the case for a long as possible. Not a pleasant time at all, I can assure you.
As for my ex, well all I will say is that his subsequent behaviour assured me that I did absolutely the right thing in terms of leaving him; reneging on financial agreements, not turning up to see Livvy time after time, refusing to share any of the childcare in order to allow me to try and rebuild the business, knowing full well that I have no family on hand to help and just generally making a very difficult time substantially worse.
Anyway, after the bank pulling the plug and my sailing perilously close to bankruptcy, a route I refused to go down, periods of depression and ongoing shenanigans from my ex we are moving forward, albeit slowly.
One of the hardest things to deal with is trusting yourself again, constantly vacillating, constantly asking, is this the right thing to do, am I on the right path - I made such a monumental mess before, what if I do it again? Am I making the best choices for me and my daughter?
So, to try and get back to the question at the beginning of this now somewhat long post, is not telling it warts and all, dishonest or is it just an assumption that sometimes, telling it how it really is, is just a little bit too much information?